Growing pains

Last night I went to my 17 year-old son's room to "read him his bedtime story" and "tuck him in." When I was done I bent down to kiss him goodnight and his lips and tongue tasted just like cigarettes! I'm outraged that he would throw away his health like this. I've always taught my children to love themselves above all else, yet they still seem to insist on being self-destructive. For instance, just a few months ago, I was checking on my daughter's SpaceBook page and I'm starting to think that the internet isn't even safe for her anymore.

I heard from some other parents that a good way to see what your kids are up to is to get a SpaceFace ID and pretend to be their age and get them to add you to their friends list. This is the only way to see into their private pages. Well, I did this. I pretended to be a teenage boy and got her to add me to her list. I'd been doing this for a couple of weeks and we had become very close. Although, as her father I know she has been lying about her age. She's 13 but she says she's 16 on her MyBook profile, and she looks like she's 20 in real life.

Well, about a couple of weeks into my "sting operation" she asked me if I wanted to "cyber." I thought this was some kind of game, but then she started describing all the sexual acts she was "doing" to me. In all the police movies they say to never break your "cover" so I had no choice but to respond likewise. Now we've been cybering for the past month and what I want to know is how the heck does she know all these sex moves at 13 and how long should I keep doing this with her before I confront her about it...